Emotional wellbeing · 8 min read
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself
Letting go does not mean approving of what happened. It means no longer carrying it alone.
What forgiveness is not
It is not forgetting, excusing or reconciling. You can forgive someone and still choose distance. Forgiveness is an inner release, not a negotiation.
Start small
Begin with something minor — a sharp comment, a missed call. Write what happened, how it felt and what you would like to release. Practise on small weights before lifting heavy ones.
Include yourself
Many of us find it easiest to forgive others and hardest to forgive ourselves. Speak to yourself as you would to a close friend who made the same mistake.